INTPs (Introvert, iNtuitive, Thinking and Perspective) are usually flexible and quite easy-going. They are known for their intelligence and impeccable problem solving skills. INTPs can naturally catch the logical flaw in any given situation; let it be an argument, debate or system. INTPs are amazing at coming up with logical theories that can completely change the perspective of the people around them. Among many other scientists, physicists etc., Albert Einstein and Charles Darwin are thought to have been INTP.
Pretty much like all the other personality types, INTPs also have their limitations and dislikes. They usually have an air of ‘I don’t care’. It is difficult to offend an INTP. INTP don’t care about pity gossips and in-group politics. If you annoy them they will either ignore you or leave you alone. However, there are few circumstances that can make an INTP absolutely hate you.
Here are the 5 most common things that would make an INTP hate you:
INTP hate emotional decisions
INTP abide by the statement, ‘When emotions rule, reason suffers’. Whenever an INTP engage with the world, they see logic and sense. They join together every experience and intertwined aspects of the situation to make a flow chart in their head. If the conclusion make sense to them, they will agree to it, else they would take a clear stand against it. An INTPs decision cannot be swayed by emotions, but by logic alone. The most commonly used sentences by INTPs include “This doesn’t make sense” or “This makes sense”.
You cannot emotionally manipulate an INTP. Like a hound dog they can smell inconsistencies in your story from miles away. If you think you have successfully manipulated an INTP, it is simply because either INTP doesn’t care enough about it or they want you to believe that you succeeded with your manipulation tactic because they want to maintain harmony in your relationship with them. Though you think they have made an emotional decision, rest assured there is a logic behind it.
INTP just cannot understand how people make decisions or come to a conclusion solely based on their emotions and feelings. If you say, “This is wrong because I feel bad about it”, they would look at you like deer in headlights.
Imagine this conversation-
ENFP – I am married. Yay!
INTP – Ok. So, you are now useless to single people.
ENFP – I hate you. You made me feel bad. You called me useless.
INTP – No! I called you useless for people who were looking forward to marry you.
The INTP would stand by the statement, because it makes logical sense to them. They would not understand why would someone be mad at them for making a logically valid statement. You would offend an INTP, first, by making an illogical emotional decision, and second, by disregarding their logic, fact and truth of the matter. They cannot stand people who throw emotional tantrum in response to their logical fact based statements.
It is hard for INTP to comprehend how emotions and feelings play role in decision making. If you are someone who regularly make decisions based on your emotions, you are going to annoy the INTP frequently. It doesn’t matter if you are authority figure. Statements like ‘Because I told you so’ is not going to make an INTP budge from their stance. INTP are very uncomfortable teaming up or working under people who are prone to make emotional decisions.
For this specific reason, INTPs don’t understand why and how some people stick to the belief that has been logically proven wrong. It can be anything from a wide array like philosophy, religion, politics, environment etc. Just because some people feel that it is right and it has to be in this way despite of having no logic behind it, can trigger the annoyance and frustration of an INTP towards them.
INTP hate it when they are not listened
Talking is a hard task for an INTP. They don’t think and then talk, but talk while thinking. An INTP speech is therefore riddled with um, oh, hmm. They often move on to the next sentence without finishing the first sentence. They continuously improvize their ideas and theories while they are trying to explain them to others.
INTP use their audience as sounding boards. They understand it better when they hear out loud what they are saying and if it makes sense. It can get them long time to reach to the point. When INTP speaks they are trying to connect various points to form a theory or come to a conclusion. While speaking they constantly improvize their sentences and theories by considering all “what else” and “what if”. If you lose patience half way through and don’t allow INTP to finish what they were trying to explain, expect INTP to go cold on you.
INTP are mostly quiet and reserved. If they tell you something, it means what they said matters a lot to them. They would assume you would understand that it is important for them. For example, if your INTP boyfriend tell you that they believe in monogamous relationship, it means it is non-negotiable for him. (Meanwhile if you ask him why, he might tell you things like STDs, effect on pair-bonding ability and general health concerns. INTP are true logicians, don’t expect emotional reasons.) He is going to hate you, if you try to change his mind without backing your argument with solid reasons. In such cases INTP tend to move on and never look back.
INTP hate it when their time is not valued
INTP value their time more than money. They like to spend their time brainstorming, thinking innovative ideas and exploring possibilities. INTP would hate it if you keep them waiting or waste their time with meaningless chit chats. People who value INTPs time and can engage in intellectual conversation are cherished.
INTP actually feel guilty when they allow someone to waste their time. An INTP would rather be in the magical world that resides in their head, read a book or watch a documentary than waste their precious time waiting for someone or doing routine things and menial tasks that can easily bore them. If they see you as someone who would waste their time they would steer clear of you.
INTP hate being called emotionless robots
Whenever you give INTP any kind of information, they would think and analyze the information rather than feel the emotions attached to it. So for an instance if you tell an INTP that you are having a tough day, they would likely provide you the suggestions and tips to solve your problem than give emotional support.
It should not be presumed that INTP cannot feel. They can very well emphasize and understand your feeling, they just don’t know how to respond to it. INTP do feel the emotions deeply, they simply find it difficult to express those emotions. It hurts when the people who are special to INTP call them emotionless robot. No wonder INTPs often feel misunderstood and left out.
INTP are anything but an emotionless robot. The INTP would track you down and hunt you if they realize you have harmed their loved one.
Also, if you force INTP to share their feelings, before they have thought about it and are ready, can make them withdraw from you. INTP throughout their life feel marginalized in their profession and personal relationships due their inability to socially bond and respond to emotional needs of others. Poking them continuously to show emotions and be more social can trigger their hatred towards you.
INTP hate being restricted
INTP cherish freedom above anything else. Freedom to think, freedom to be creative and freedom to explore ideas and possibilities. INTP lose their creative energy if they are restricted by rules, deadlines or emotional blackmail. Whenever INTP feel that their freedom is hindered they lash out and try to get away from that person or situation.
During problem solving process they almost mind travel themselves to another universe and forget about their surroundings. In order to make a decision INTP need to think and make sure that all the possibilities have been explored. INTPs hate being forced to take decision at the spur of the moment where they did not get enough time to process all the information. It is best if they are allowed to be freedom to evaluate the information to come up with amazing ideas. If you take away their freedom to think, INTP is absolutely going to despise you.
Not all INTPs are exactly the same but they do share similar functioning pattern. Trust their intellect and give them the freedom. You will be surprised by what an INTP can offer you.