How to be Mysterious and Attractive – The Ultimate Secret

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Being mysterious makes you attractive. People always want something that they can’t have. Mystery is intriguing, it makes you interesting. It makes people want to come back to you craving for more, to try to get to know you more, find more about your personality, learn more about your quirks. The time someone spends thinking about you is directly proportional to how attractive they find you. Mystery can be an awesome tool in your arsenal to make you attractive. Being mysterious is effective only if you do it correctly.

So what makes someone mysterious and intriguing? Well, there are number of things people do, be it consciously or subconsciously that makes them mysterious. Most of the time, their mysteriousness is mere an illusion that dissipates quickly. As disappointing as it may sound, there is nothing so exciting behind their facade of mystery. On the other hand, mystery is also a type of illusion that can be reproduced quite easily. To master the art of mystery, it is crucial to understand that being mysterious is a lifestyle and not something you can artificially create from time to time. It has to come from within your personality at all times.

Mysteriousness comes in many forms and gels awesomely with any kind of personality type. You might have seen super fun, outgoing mysterious guys and also crossed paths with introvert, more quiet mysterious guys who use mystery to achieve great results.

How Not to Be Mysterious

Most men and women who go about try being mysterious get it completely wrong and fail miserably at it. Instead of coming across as confident and awesome they end up being rather creepy and try-hards who no one likes.

There are two guys who claim to be mysterious. Let’s call the first guy John and the second one Bill. John is the interesting one that people cannot figure out while Bill is the one that people think is creepy.

What is the Difference?

The difference between being interestingly mysterious and creepy is very simple. The answer lies in the fact that while Bill tries to hide all the information from people, John on the other hand hides only the explanation for the information.

Bill gives out the vibes that he’s purposely hiding something from people and it not a good feeling. This is what makes him feel creepy. He is the kind of guy who doesn’t want to answer stuff and always tries to evade questions.

The mystery that Bill possesses doesn’t come from a place of strength or confidence but from trying too hard. It is pretty obvious that he doesn’t want to answer and it makes him look like an anti-social weirdo who is very annoying to talk to because he won’t even answer the most simple questions. A repugnant individual.

The issue with trying hard to be mysterious by withholding information is that it looks and feels like you have an agenda. People can feel that there is a reason why you aren’t telling them anything. It makes people distrust you and your intentions.

How to Remain Mysterious in the Right Way

Let’s look at what John does and why people see him differently than Bill. John is fun to talk to and will tell you basic information about him. You can ask John anything and he will answer it wittily in some way. You can feel the aura of confidence when he speaks. Though he answers your questions in monosyllables like yes or no, there is an omnipresent welcoming smile on his face. What John won’t do is explain why he does what he does, why he likes what he likes, why he feels what he feels and so on. John never explains himself.

John will tell you that he doesn’t like Titanic movie but won’t explain why. He just doesn’t like it. John will tell you that he just returned from a trip to Bali but won’t explain why he went there. He went there because he can. John will tell you that he doesn’t have Facebook anymore but won’t tell you why. He just doesn’t have it so you better deal with it.

If John doesn’t have time for someone today, he would openly state that he can’t make it today because he’s playing video games. He doesn’t explain why or with whom or whatever. However, he is clear with his intentions and verbalizes it. On the other hand Bill would be too afraid to tell about video games (people pleasing) and would just say that he cannot make it tonight which makes him look like he’s hiding something (which he is). John however doesn’t care and 100% stands behind his actions. He doesn’t have to apologize or explain himself for his choices which make him even more attractive!

The number One rule of being mysterious is to NEVER EXPLAIN YOURSELF.

While Bill is a closed book, John is an open book that keeps you engaged with mystery twist and suspense. You would want to continue reading the book, but it keeps getting out of your reach every time you read 2 pages. John is a literal human cliffhanger. His life to other people is never ending suspense movie.

The trick to mystery is in the details and it makes perfect sense once you realize it but you still see tons and tons of men and women that are being a Bill but wants to be like John.

The mystery you project must never be based on some weird agenda but rather on your confidence. Be so confident that you don’t need to explain yourself to anyone. When mystery is combines with confidence and self assurance it drives people absolutely mad with interest and curiosity. They all know what you are about, what you do and what you like but no one knows why. No one knows the sweet details they all crave so much!

It is not just that being mysterious makes everyone crazy about you. It also makes your life easier and better. You can do whatever you want because you don’t have to care about what anybody thinks and you don’t have to explain your motives, hobbies, interest and personal choices to anyone. It helps you to become yourself.

7 Easy Ways to become Mysterious

Apart from being confident and self assured you can follow below tips to incorporate the mysterious girl or mysterious guy persona in your lifestyle-

  1. Embrace your Individuality– Instead of following the crowd, develop your hobby and tastes. Have your own dressing style and embrace all your quirkiness. It proves that you know exactly who you are which makes you exciting.
  2. Maintain Good Posture– It is important to maintain good and open posture to give off a mysterious vibe while being welcoming with a pleasant personality. Smile, keep your head held high with shoulders back and stomach in so others immediately pick up on your confident attitude.
  3. Limit your Social Media Activities– When you feel really happy, excited or sad about something in your daily life, think twice before posting your feelings all over social media. To be mysterious, it is crucial to limit how much you disclose about yourself on social media sites like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat. Like the pictures that you really find interesting. Like them and comment on them because you like it, not to please anyone else. Comment on a post only if you have something substantial to say. Keep emojis to minimum.
  4. Take Genuine Interest In People– Take a sincere interest in people and try to connect with them on a deeper level. By understanding people and showing genuine concern for them you will make yourself approachable and trustworthy. It is very common mistake to think that being mysterious means you have to be rude and unapproachable. If you project self-centered, arrogant and egoistic attitude, people will only feel relieved when you are gone and all your mysteriousness will go down the drain.
  5. Develop Your Social Skills Having the right social and communication skills adds to your mysterious appeal. Think before you speak. Say only those things that actually add value to the conversation. Being mysterious should not be confused with being anti-social. Even if you are an introvert and don’t want to socialize (INTP or INTJ) you must know the basic social rules and skills. Socialize because you enjoy it and want to meet people. Don’t do it to please others or to prove something. Being mysterious without having basic social intelligence always backfires. Be very clear with your intentions.
  6. Learn to Say No– If you don’t want to do something that you don’t like simply don’t do it. People pleasing attitude coupled with fear of what people will say is the killer of your mysterious aura. Stand behind your personal life choices and decisions. Never play the game of saying no purposely to show how busy you are or intentionally keep other person waiting for your response. Respond right away if it is urgent or as soon as you get time. The silent treatments and other mind games are toxic and childish. Instead do what you want to do and what you feel is right. Take control of your life and own it. Independence means capability to choose and it is another secret ingredient which makes you mysterious and attractive.
  7. Have a Passion or Hobby– Be passionate about the things you love. Develop hobbies that you enjoy. Your passion will make people wonder about the subjects of your passion. Your dedication to the subject will be appreciated with curiosity. This doesn’t mean you brag about your passions or talk about it all the time. Mention about your passions sometimes with interesting details or feats you recently achieved. To be mysterious it is important that your life doesn’t revolve around one particular person or subject. Develop multiple hobbies that you can enjoy and talk about.

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