ENFP relationships often have serious ups and downs. These relationships are full of fun, creativity, drama, excitement and adventure. Their childlike enthusiasm, loyalty and passion towards life make them a perfect friend and romantic partner. ENFP’s decisions are based on their feelings, morals and internal value system. They often contribute, donate and support social causes for betterment of society. However, their idealistic approach towards life, inability to handle stress and extreme sensitivity to criticism makes them prone to emotional outbursts and passive-aggressive behavior. ENFPs are very flexible, nurturing, considerate and understanding towards feelings of their partner. They do whatever it takes to make the relationship work. This however makes it difficult for them to leave the bad relationships and make them easy target for people who want to take their advantage.
Here are 10 things you need to know before entering into relationship with an ENFP.
ENFPs Value Knowledge and Growth
ENFPs are always eager to learn new things and want to have a partner who can challenge them intellectually. Though ENFPs are pro at small talks and random chit chats at social gatherings, they prefer a partner who is open minded and knowledgeable. They look for someone with whom they can explore new perspectives and have meaningful discussions. The quality conversation and exploring new ideas is perfect for them on first date. If you want to seduce an ENFP display your thoughts and together explore the world of new possibilities. If you conquer ENFPs mind, you conquer their heart.
ENFPs are Wild in Bed
ENFPs are most seductive, passionate and creative lovers with rich fantasies. They have a penchant for trying new things and eagerness to make their partner happy. Rest assured they are never boring in bed. To improve their skills, they will figure out the ways to constantly better themselves. If required they won’t shy away from reading all the books and guides on the subject. They’re amazing and playful lovers who love to flaunt their sexuality, with them no idea, place or position is off the table. For an ENFP sex is not just pleasure, they see it is an opportunity to whole-heartedly express their love and create emotional bonding with their partner.
ENFPs are Loyal
Nobody can flirt better than an ENFP. They are known to lavish people with their affection and attention. This is frequently misunderstood as flirting and becomes the cause of trouble in their relationships. However ENFPs are extremely loyal to their partner once they form the emotional bond. They highly value the loyalty and try to maintain the integrity of relationship at all costs. The idea of cheating or hurting their spouse is painful to them.
ENFPs always look out for exciting possibilities and fantasize about an ideal partner straight out of a Disney movie waiting for them somewhere out there. If their tendency to look for greener pasture overpowers them, they face trouble in staying in monogamous relationships. For an ENFP to be in a dedicated relationship, it is crucial that their partner is enthusiastic about having new experiences and frequently engages them in new adventures. Common hobbies and interest that need imagination and creativity keeps the relationship going. The daily routine and a boring lifestyle would suffocate the ENFP. It would make it difficult for them to stay happy and focus on the relationship. The boredom and dullness in relationship if not addressed on time makes them eventually leave the relationship.
ENFPs are Children at Heart
ENFPs have reckless streaks. They can be life of parties, but they need someone to constantly keep their enthusiasm in check or they can go overboard with drinks, food, dance or flirting. Remember, ENFPs feel first, think later. If they feel like getting drunk, they will, without thinking of repercussions until later on. They bring the proverb ‘curiosity killed the cat’ to life.
Making decisions and sticking to them is hard for an ENFP. They need a partner with a clear head, who can guide them, comfort them by structured thought and show them the direction when they feel lost in the swirl of overwhelming feelings or excitement. Their emotions and idealistic approach can easily cloud their judgement. ENFPs for this reason are attracted to partner who are not pushovers and stand their ground when needed. They like the sense of reliability and security provided by a steadfast partner.
This might not augurs well for the ENFP relationships, since the partner of an immature ENFP might feel more like a parent figure or caregiver than a lover. For a long lasting relationship, ENFPs need to learn to control their emotions and think logically for a moment before taking any actions solely based on feelings.
ENFPs are Best Cheerleaders
ENFPs want the best for their partner and they often encourage their partner to follow their dreams and ambitions. They will make sure to let their partner know that they are by their side during all ups and downs of life. They cheer for their partner at every opportunity and make sure to give them all emotional support and motivation. Even if their partner’s dream appears to be ludicrous, they will stand by their partner and will be ready to fight out with anyone who dares to ridicule their partner.
And they expect same from their partner, to provide them encouragement and be by their side during their hard times. ENFPs place great importance on personal growth and would often embark on new hobbies and adventures during which they would wish their partner would actively support them and cheer for them. They accept their partner with all their flaws and don’t like to pressurize their partner into changing their behavior or doing anything in particular, unless it is to protect their partner from certain harm or because it is against ENFP’s ethics and values.
ENFPs Look for Open-Minded Partner
ENFPs are pro at throwing new ideas and plans every now and then. They change their mind several times and ultimately do something that is completely opposite to initial plan. To be in relationship with an ENFP you have to be open to explore never thought before ideas, absurd conversation topics, new activities and perspectives. You obviously don’t have to immediately pack your bags and go to Himalayas just because they saw a documentary about Snowman sighting and want to try their luck finding one. You just have to listen them out and let them know that you would love to go there in future on a suitable time. For an ENFP getting the acknowledgment of their idea is itself sufficient. They know their ideas and demands are sometimes unreasonable, but they will Google the possible hideouts of snowman anyways.
Sharing thoughts and ideas is the quickest ways to connect with an ENFP. Tell ENFP new information or about what you are thinking at the moment or throw different possibilities or scenarios about a future plan to engage them and bond with you. ENFP like to give their opinions and formulate new theories when intellectually challenged.
ENFPs Crave For Feedback
ENFPs genuinely invest in their partner and try to understand everything about their partner. To keep their partner happy, they want to know their partner’s likes and dislikes, what makes them tickle, and how they can help to make their partner be more relaxed in the relationship. This can sometimes be smothering for their partner. To prevent an ENFP from becoming overly insecure, possessive or jealous, it is best if their partner provide them feedback about the relationship from time to time. ENFPs are sensitive to criticism but they value the feedback regarding health of their relationship. It is important to know for them if they doing something wrong.
ENFPs feel special when they know someone is thinking of them or goes out of their way to help them. Keeping in touch via texts, a heartfelt card, or a phone call to inquire about their day makes them cherish their partner.
ENFPs like to draw inspiration from others. Their ideal partner is the one who can inspire them and share ideas with them. ENFPs often fall in love with a person’s mind. When an ENFP’s share feelings, and their true thoughts about the relationship, they enable the ENFP to take the relationship to a next level. When their partner shares their feelings or opens up about their happy and sad moments, ENFPs feel trusted and feel like they are an important part of their partner’s life.
ENFPs Like to Be Free As a Bird
ENFPs want to be seen and heard by the people around them. Don’t shut them down if you find their ideas wonderfully weird. ENFPs crave for an audience because they have a lot they want to express. If you try to restrict them or put them in a box, they’ll start to resent you for making them feel like a caged bird. ENFPs like to spend time exploring new place, interacting with new people and learning new subjects. They want to experience things and experiment their ideas.
Though ENFPs can be completely committed in a relationship, but they would not like to entertain the idea of putting their own personal growth or career on a back-burner for the relationship. The definition of healthy relationship for an ENFP is the one in which both partner are growing and making themselves better alongside each other. They wouldn’t want their or their partner’s growth to be stagnant.
ENFPs Are Often Assumed to Be Casanova
ENFPs are friend people and human interaction is their oxygen. They want to meet a lot of people and make friends. People are not used to the kind of genuine love and attention which ENFPs normally lavish on them. This obviously leads to ENFPs being constantly accused of flirting with everyone. ENFPs are really curiosity about the people and their lifestyles which nudges them to engage and interact with people from all walks of life. However, ENFPs are extremely loyal and a mere insinuation of cheating is insulting to them. ENFPs give either all or nothing to the relationship. If they are giving their all in the relationship, their partner should have no reason to doubt them.
ENFPs Hate Criticism. Love Verbal Praise
ENFPs are extremely sensitive to criticism and take it personally. Being people pleaser, ENFPs invest a lot in the relationship. They drive personal satisfaction through the happiness of their loved ones, and any expression of disapproval or disappointment can crush the them. ENFPs see the negative comment as an allegation against their entire character instead of seeing it as opportunity for growth. They over-analyze the comments and can easily begin to feel insecure in relationships if criticized constantly.
ENFPs crave for verbal praise and appreciation from people who are close to them. They need constant assurance from their partner about the love they share and can get extremely upset over a slight remark if they perceive it as criticism. This doesn’t mean that their partner is not allowed to confront them, but it is important for their partner to make the correct choice of words. ENFPs would know that their partner’s aim is not to hurt them but to make their relationship better.
ENFPs hesitate leaving bad relationships. They see the failure of relationship as their fault. ENFPs like to see possibilities and good in every individual. To alleviate and divert the pain of a broken relationship they often indulge in binge eating, alcohol or other forms of physical pleasures. They try every trick in the book to savage the relationship. They believe that the success or failure of the relationship is completely their responsibility and if they do a little more, or something little different they can save the relationship. ENFPs can be a pleasure to be in relationship with if their partner is truly looking to cherish a lifelong relationship with them.
Ayush Henry is an ENFP who is a health enthusiast and prolific copywriter. He is a professional soft skills trainer known for his boundless energy and enthusiasm. Ayush holds MBA in hospitality and a Master of Arts in English. He indulged himself in creative writing and has been crafting online and print educational materials since 2010. Ayush keeps himself on the path to health and fitness through cardio exercises, jogging and regular workout. His hobbies are photography, painting and exploring new places via road trips on his cruiser.
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