In the ocean of life experiences, our ship needs an anchor. A relation(ship) that is not firmly anchored by both partners remains at the mercy of all the elements of the sea. Eventually, it drifts away aimlessly and fades into oblivion.
In a relationship both the partners function as each other’s anchor. They act as rock through difficult times for each other. This kind of healthy relationship is strong and stable. Knowing that your life partner is also your reliable anchor gives the feeling of security, stability, and being grounded. It fills the heart with calmness and takes away all the chaos, hysteria, anxiety and uncertainty which surround the daily life. Your partner will encourage you to be in tune with yourselves and hold on to the values you believe in. At the end of a tiring day you will know you can just let all your anxieties out, feel safe and relax in the arms of your partner, the anchor of your ship. It feels good to share your life with your partner. All the money and worldly pleasures seems meaningless if there is no one to share them with you.
The ship of our life is meant to conquer the sea, travel, have new experience and explore the uncharted oceans. It is all fun until there are moments of doubts and anxieties, when we are not sure of ourselves, or when we feel directionless and in need of support and guidance. The sea of life always challenges our resilience and there are dark hours when we are adrift and at the mercy of the tides and currents which toss us to and fro. We make bad decisions. The choices we make sometimes lack wider perspective, steadfast facts and experience. We begin to work on guesses, say to ourselves Let’s try this! Let’s try that! Go here, Go there! unsure of what will work and what will not work. We crave for someone to just tell us: don’t worry, I am here, everything will be alright. We miss our anchor.
True independence to travel on the open sea comes with a firm anchor. In a relationship our life partner like an anchor serve as reference points which help us find our true potential on this experiential sea, keep us focused, motivate us to give our best and keep us from drifting. He/she help us become resilient in decision-making process and give us hope in emotional, unstable and confusing times. A relationship that is firmly anchored by both partners remains healthy, secure and steady. The relationship is able to “hold fast” during weakest moments and most trying experiences. We are able to trust confidently in the ability of our partner to drive past the rough seas. Undoubtedly, both partners work in tandem to inspire and make each other’s life better.
Choosing your Life Partner- Your Relationship Anchor
The excitement of new relationship makes us feel jubilant. We can feel love in the air. However when the honeymoon phase ends everything goes downhill. The quirky behavior of our partner that made us blush now makes our face go red with anger. We set our sails for the next island and off we go wandering in the sea again.
If you are truly looking for a life partner, just give your budding relationship some time. Show your true self from the very beginning. Don’t show them the best version of you which you can’t mask forever. Give them a chance to love you for who you are. There will always be some people who would like to board your ship just for the sake of fun and luxury. These people have no intention to stay on your ship or be your companion. They will jump ships if an opportunity presents itself. Choose wisely. Don’t judge them on the basis of height, weight, hairstyle and other superficial qualities. You don’t want a Chinese anchor that though look good from outside, but has no warranty and might not last long. Look for qualities like loyalty, honesty, integrity of character, past relationship history (it repeats itself) and commitment towards relationship. Most importantly be sure you are willing to act as an anchor in his/her life as well. The foundation of your relationship must be strong.
A lose anchor can endanger the ship and crew. If the anchor slips away the ship can lose its bearing in the sea and be tossed about with every changing of the wind and shifting of sails. Before hoisting the sails of your relationship make sure you have a steady, loving and caring anchor to stabilize the relationship from the waves, tides and hurricanes. It would make sailing through rough waters easier.
With the added stability and confidence of the strong relationship, begin a new journey, voyage, and a new adventure. Move on and have a better, shiny, grounded future leaving the tumultuous past behind venturing into a new era of life. Your life partner, your anchor will give you new hope, encourage you and motivate you to successfully carry out the plans you have made. He/she will prevent you from drifting in confusion and enable you to focus on your ideas, goals, vision and dreams.
Emily is an INFP who believes that people should always live their lives to the fullest everyday. She loves her dog JiJi. Emily has graduated from University of Michigan and is a passionate relationship blogger who is looking forward to her career as relationship and dating coach. She is an avid book reader with special liking for romance, horror and sci-fi genre. You can find her on Tumbler.