Who are ENFP?
ENFP, according to Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), stands for Extraversion E, Intuition N, Feeling F and Perception P. They are among one of the sixteen personality types who contributes about 5% to 7% of the population. ENFPs are free spirited people who enjoy spreading happiness and harmony among people. Their presence can be easily felt in the crowd as they are also known for being the life of the party. They are very outgoing, cheerful and possess child-like energy. ENFP’s friendly attitude is often misconstrued as flirting, but when an ENFP is actually flirting, be prepared to be wooed like you have never been wooed before.
How ENFP approach love and dating?
When it comes to relationship, love and affection, ENFPs are very broad-minded. They’re willing to explore and experiment all kind of ideas that keep popping every second out of their mind. They like to express those ideas and feelings to their loved one. ENFP love it when their loved one listens to them and give them undivided attention. They hate being criticized. Initially during their honeymoon phase, ENFP try to do everything that could please and let their partner know that they’re giving their best efforts.
How would ENFP express their love?
Let’s take a peek inside the mind of ENFP and see what they do and feel when they love someone and begin to bond with them.
ENFP will plan date nights and getaways
Imagine Jacob, an ENFP who is in love with an INTJ named Kasandra. Jacob will plan and take Kasandra on a road trip. He would choose the best weather and would want to have new experiences with her. He would turn on his ENFP charm. As an ENFP he will be complete gentleman and would try to make her feel comfortable. He would take her out to a nice restaurant to try special dishes and local cuisine.
ENFP will observe their love interest
Jacob, as an ENFP would closely observe the likes and dislikes of Kasandra. He would notice which aspects of road trip Kasandra enjoyed the most. He would occasionally ask or offer suggestions to Kasandra during the journey. Jacob will observe what Kasandra likes to do or try during the way or may be after reaching the destination. Jacob would be open to any kind of suggestion to make the trip even better and memorable. While having lunch or dinner in a restaurant Jacob will notice what kind of dishes Kasandra orders, which is her favorite cuisine and what type of ambience she likes.
ENFP will be inquisitive
After coming back from the road trip, Jacob as any other ENFP, will be curious about the feedback from Sandra. He would ask her whether she enjoyed the getaway or not and if she would like to go on an adventurous trip or date night again. It is difficult to resist the ENFP charm and the feel good energy they create. The answer from Kasandra would probably be affirmative.
ENFP will collect and store the data
Using the information provided by their loved one and things the ENFP have observed they will make mental notes and plan their next outing accordingly. Jacob will keep the checklist ready for his next trip while still improvising to fit in with new ideas to make trip feel like a new experience.
Partners of ENFP often wonder how their ENFP know them and their likes and dislikes so well. In general, during the first few meetings, ENFP tend to learn as much as they can about their loved one and later use it to make their partner happy.
ENFP in LOVE
ENFP will boost the spirit of their loved one
An ENFP cares a lot and ensures that their loved one stays happy, smiling and satisfied. When an ENFP falls in Love, nothing can stop them from showering their love and affection in the best of ways. Love matters to an ENFP a lot. They keep thinking every moment about what would bring a smile on their partner’s face. It could be a surprise gift in the evening to cheer up their partner or it could an intellectual conversation on “From Apes to Human Transformation” if an ENFP’s loved one happens to be an INTP.
ENFP will motivate
ENFPs are amazing in seeing the potential in people and they can easily tell where they will progress. They use this specific skill to give the motivation to their loved one and to boost their self-esteem. With their intuitive Ne and Extroversion, ENFP can be best advisors and counselors.
ENFP as a Spouse
Let’s continue the story of Jacob and Kasandra and see what would happen later in their love life if Kasandra marries Jacob.
As a husband (or wife), ENFP tend to be very supportive and give their 100% in the marriage. They see marriage as a lifelong commitment. As an ENFP husband, Jacob would get up early in the morning and prepare breakfast consisting multigrain toast, an egg omelet and a black coffee. Exactly the kind of breakfast Kasandra would like to have. Ensuring the tray in the hand, he would kiss subtly on her cheeks and wake her up. When his wife gets up smiling, hugs him and takes the breakfast, he would be assured that she is happy, healthy and sound. The worst fear of an ENFP is their loved one being harmed.
ENFP will plan surprises
ENFPs are best at planning surprises. When Kasandra calls Jacob at his work place and tells him that she is getting a bonus, Jacob would be ecstatic. He would appreciate and congratulates her for the success. ENFPs like Jacob instinctively feels that a special day in the life of loved one must be celebrated. Jacob would plan a surprise for his wife in the evening to make her day even better.
ENFPs thinks a lot to come up with an original plan to create a memorable surprise for their loved one. When Kasandra returns back home in the evening, Jacob would tell her to get ready for the surprise. While she is in shower and getting dressed-up, Jacob would improvise his surprise plan.
When Kasandra would come out looking for Jacob, she would find a note on cupboard that reads “you eat me when you feel hot, where will I be found”. She would call Jacob but he won’t answer.
Kasandra would now know that she must solve the puzzle. She would go to the refrigerator and open it; there she would find another hint on the ice-cream box which would read “You love watching NETFLIX on me”.
Kasandra would go to the living room, wearing her high heels. Near the Television set her last hint reads “I kissed you here for the first time, where am I”.
This would be the easy question for Kasandra and she would go to the terrace. Jacob would be standing on the terrace with a home-made candle light dinner at the same place where they first kissed. Kasandra would get wonderfully surprised and she would kiss Jacob. He would pull the chair and comfort her. While having dinner they will discuss their day. Jacob would observe that Kasandra has been happy throughout the day. Jacob would get satisfied and their day will end while both of them snug and sleep together.
Final Words on ENFP
ENFPs give all their efforts to keep relationship healthy, flourishing and exciting. Not all the ENFPs are same but they do share similar hobbies and patterns. Relationship with an ENFP can be really exciting. They are very loyal and trust worthy. Let them be who they are in real and get prepared to be amazed in the relationship.
Ayush Henry is an ENFP who is a health enthusiast and prolific copywriter. He is a professional soft skills trainer known for his boundless energy and enthusiasm. Ayush holds MBA in hospitality and a Master of Arts in English. He indulged himself in creative writing and has been crafting online and print educational materials since 2010. Ayush keeps himself on the path to health and fitness through cardio exercises, jogging and regular workout. His hobbies are photography, painting and exploring new places via road trips on his cruiser.
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