Ten Most Common Life Challenges of an ENFP



ENFP (Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving) type consists of 8% of world population. When god created the mankind, he sent ENFP’s as angels of happiness. To this day the ENFPs are relentlessly striving to make people around them happy.

The top 5 adjectives to describe an ENFP are Enthusiastic, Spontaneous, Understanding, Ingenuous and People pleaser.

ENFP’s have the ability to change anyone’s mood in seconds. They are naturally empathetic. An ENFP can sense if someone is upset, happy, angry or afraid. They have so much energy and enthusiasm in their persona that can easily make a sad person happy. River is the best personification of an ENFP. Like a river an ENFP would want to flow freely without any restrictions. They would like to spread the joy as they encounter new people and life experiences. To that end, ENFPs craves for a partner like Earth whose gravity can keep them grounded and channelize their energy and ideas in the right direction.

ENFP type dynamics-

Dominant (Ne): Extraverted Intuition– Keeping an open mind for new possibilities, imaginations, alternatives and ideas.

Auxiliary (Fi): Introverted Feeling– Forming core beliefs and principles to maintain harmony in social interactions.

Tertiary (Te): Extraverted Thinking– Seeking knowledge, leaning new techniques and finding logical explanations to widen the perspective.

Inferior (Si): Introverted Sensing– Connecting present and past experiences to forecast and plan the future.

Top 10 struggles of an ENFP-

1- ENFP’s Tug of war between Social time and Me time

ENFPs love to interact with people. Like the Sun vitalizes Superman, the social interactions nourish an ENFP. Getting to know people and sharing the ideas excites an ENFP. The superficial conversations or the fake people who lack any intellectual credibility but indulge in self promotion are anathema to ENFP. After the heavy dose of social interactions an ENFP craves for alone time to process the information they accumulated and try to align it with their core values. ENFPs are fiercely individualistic, they don’t attend social gathering to extract benefits out of people but because they love talking to interesting people. They would rather stay home and play video games than meet unwanted people. But, again their inability to say no and being people pleaser they get sucked into the social events they don’t want to attend.

2- ENFP’s conflict between core values and worldly pleasures

ENFPs never want to compromise their core values and belief system for selfish or materialistic gains. They would like to be part of different social groups and make tons of friends, but they would never exploit these contacts for personal gains if it is against their ethics. They would be reluctant to compromise their personalities just to fit in the group. In personal and professional life they don’t like to be controlled. They will immediately become very hostile and abandon the relationship or job if comes to that. For an ENFP the emotional fulfillment always rank higher than monetary gains. Their ethics and moral values make them very trustworthy and loyal partners. They would rather forsake the bag of gold coins than to betray their loved ones.

3- ENFP are reluctant to apologize 

ENFP is one of the most understanding personalities. They hardly get angry. They are very much capable of empathizing and realizing different perspectives. They try hard to maintain the harmony. ENFPs get angry when they are cornered and pushed to their limits. When they are livid, every pore of their body feels the agony. In these moments they lash out the most cutting insults and vicious remarks. They flee the environment and seek some lone time to make sense of the situation. When they calm down and realize they have over-reacted or hurt the other person. The ENFP is filled with guilt if they somehow see that it was their fault. They are quick to make amends and explain the other person the reason for their behavior. An ENFP will apologize just to restore the harmony. In their mind the other person is still the one who made them angry. ENFPs hate themselves when they are angry. They would say sorry and would prefer if they are not poked over it again and again. They don’t want to be reminded of that incident.

4- ENFP’s people pleasing attitude

The ENFPs are passionate people pleasers. They strongly desire that people be on the same page as them. ENFPs are so pre-occupied in making other people happy they often forget their own needs. ENFPs are left bewildered when their attempts to make people happy don’t work out as they imagined. They genuinely want people around them to be happy but overlook the fact that happiness is self generated. Their attempts to make people happy work momentarily. Happiness is generated from within, ENFPs don’t want to accept this. They blame themselves and see it as personal failure. ENFPs attempts to make people around them happy are widely under appreciated. Being a people pleaser also means that they don’t want to take sides if there is a conflict in their social group. They would rather act as peace makers.

5- An ENFP or a Casanova?

ENFP’s genuine desire to interact with people and make everyone comfortable is vastly underrated and misunderstood. An ENFP loves it when they are the reason for someone’s smile. They like to complement people to cheer them up. They can really appreciate the unique personality traits of people around them. ENFPs are very observant of their surroundings. They would be the first to notice and complement people on their new haircut or gorgeous dress. People mistake their legitimate complements as flirting.  They think an ENFP is hitting on them all of the time. Some people really get confused if the behavior of ENFP is friendly or flirtatious. ENFPs naturally give unusual amount of attention and affection to people who misconstrue the complements as flirting. It takes time for people to understand this quirky aspect of ENFP personality type.

6- The dreaded ENFP Boredom

ENFPs hate boredom. They loathe the tasks which are not fun. ENFPs forever seek novelty. This makes them Jack of all trades, master of none. They have diverse knowledge from horse riding to rocket science but they rarely know a lot about any one thing.

7- The ENFP’s Child like behavior

There is a child hidden in every ENFP. Their childlike spirit is such that they can instantly connect with children and animals. ENFPs are proud animal lovers and love to play with their pet animal. ENFPs have to begrudgingly switch from a sweet best buddy persona to a total disciplinarian to avoid taken for granted. ENFPs have freakish interests and hobbies. ENFPs are known to be open with their bodies and have no issues roaming in the house naked.

8- ENFP priorities

ENFPs are not good when it comes to setting priorities. They are open-minded but need lack the structure required to set priorities. In quest to try new things sometimes an ENFP makes reckless and insane decisions. They want a partner with whom they can experiment and go on adventures and at the same time the partner should be steady and grounded enough to tell the ENFP when something is a bad idea. ENFPs find it hard to focus and concentrate on one thing. They get adrift and lost in a trail of thoughts. They can procrastinate the important tasks till the last minute.

9- ENFP’s quest for a life Partner

The ENFPs display high level of moral integrity and loyalty. They hate breakups and cheaters. The trauma of heart break is too big for an ENFP. They wear their heart on the sleeve. ENFPs are sometime so gullible that they get taken advantage of in relationships. When it comes to initial stages, ENFPs moves too quick, they want to impress the person and expect commitment too soon. They want to know all about the person. They come off too intense, but if it doesn’t work out the ENFP don’t like to waste time. They move on with lightening speed. An INFJ or INTP can be the ideal partner for an ENFP.

10- ENFPs Career Choices

ENFPs are usually people with / “slash” careers. They can be teachers “Slash” musicians “Slash” human resource specialists “Slash” entrepreneurs.  Typically, ENFP’s are gravitated towards people oriented jobs where they can interact with lots of people and learn new things. ENFPs are hardly found at 9 to 5 boring corporate jobs where they are micromanaged, controlled or criticized. Creative freedom and appreciation of their art are the basic requirements of an ENFP. They work well in team and as group leaders. An ENFP won’t sacrifice their morals and ethics for money. Due to their fun and upbeat personality, people tend to underestimate ENFP’s intelligence and dedication towards work. At work, they have to sometime tone down their friendly happy go lucky demeanor and strongly put their points forward to be taken seriously.